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Fall In Love With Your Spouse Again
America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts

The simple truth is, sometimes we need to fall in love with your spouse all over again!  When your marriage starts to stagnate, when it starts to suffer from the doldrums, and when it needs resuscitation, rest assured, there are five actions you can take to bring your marriage back:

1.  Engage in a process that allows you to re-establish the communication links between the two of you.  We suggest that you start with these three questions:  1. Why did we fall in love?  2. Why did we get married?  3. What are our hopes and dreams for the future?  The communicative links between the two of you are highly important and no love, no marriage, and no relationship will ever be jump-started again without the re-establishment of the communicative ties that bind.  Try getting started with programs like our “Seven-Week Program for Developing Ongoing Sharing in Your Marriage” in Building a Love that Lasts:  The Seven Surprising Secrets of Successful Marriage.

2.  The human touch is paramount to the most basic of all human connections.  So, the first thing you must do in re-establishing the passion of your relationship is to touch!  Touch often.  Touch much.  Hold hands when you walk.  Take turns wrapping around each other in bed at night.  Feel the warmth.  Feel the love.  If you pass your spouse 100 times a day, touch them 100 times.  By touching you are acknowledging their presence and telling them how much you love them.  Get started today!

3.  Work hard to have fun with each other!  Dine out at your favorite restaurant.  Spend a night in a motel.  Take a vacation to Disneyland, just the two of you!  Cook a romantic dinner at home. Whatever you do, do something that ignites the passion and the fun!  Do something that takes your relationship “beyond boring” and makes your lives exciting and fun-filled. Rediscover what makes you excited, what gives you a sense of adventure, and what makes your adrenalin flow!  Successful marriages are not boring!  Plan a passion starter today!

4.  Upend expectancies!  Do not always do that which is predictable.  Here’s an example.  One of the lovely couples we interviewed a few years ago told this wonderful story.  Their life together was getting too predictable and too boring.  At 85 years of age, they were both entirely too focused on “settling in.” But as they shared with us, it didn’t have to be that way.  When Clarence came home one glorious Sunday afternoon, he was met by his beautiful wife, Grace, at the front door in her “altogether.”  Grace thought, “What the heck, if I can’t get him interested in anything but golf and TV, I will just meet him at the door naked.”  As it turns out, Clarence got the message.  Of course, what happened after this homecoming episode they didn’t share with us!  But, they sure did upend expectancies.

5.  Tell your spouse how much you love them and why! Never, we repeat, never, fall into the trap that says, “I don’t have to tell him/her I love them, he/she knows I do.”  Nothing could be further from the truth!  Never take the one you love for granted.  Big mistake!  To love someone is wonderful.  To tell them you love them is amongst the greatest gifts you could ever give.  

You see, the rekindling of love is not so complicated.  Doing these five simple actions can re-ignite your love affair with your mate.

By Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz
America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts

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